Comments on: Mom vs. Dad

By: Lynne

Lynne — Sun, 15 Jun 2008 22:40:18 +0000

He behaves well at her games, it’s what he says to her during practices and after games that annoys her. I just don’t think he realizes how negative he sounds. They had a much better day yesterday after I told him he wasn’t allowed to critique her, only compliment or say nothing at all!

By: Lynne

Lynne — Sun, 15 Jun 2008 22:38:43 +0000

Lynn – You’re so right! I did step in yesterday and told him he needs to relax and simply catch for her. The only time he was allowed to comment was if it was a compliment. I also told him she was excited and wanted to SHOW him her new pitch. That didn’t mean that wanted him to give her instruction or critique what she was doing.
He did it and I know it was hard, but she was so happy. Now, if I can get him to stick with that protocol, all will be calm in my world! LOL

By: feefifoto

feefifoto — Sat, 14 Jun 2008 20:53:25 +0000

Could you maybe suggest that he skip some of her games because she tries so hard to impress him that she gets nervous? feefifoto's last blog post..Ducks with Ducktails! Who Knew?

By: Lynn K.

Lynn K. — Sat, 14 Jun 2008 20:45:46 +0000

Good luck. It was the same thing with my girls and hubby. In the end, he was too busy working and didn’t have time to practice with them anymore. Can you just flat out tell him? Or will he over react to that?

When Eowyn started this whole moving out ordeal, I told hubby do NOT say anything bad. Do NOT get mad at her. Don’t make her feel like she can’t do it (even though that’s exactly what we think).

I think dad’s don’t realize their helpfulness comes across negativley. I would catch for Leia when she was trying pitching, and finally she told me to just be quiet and catch. Apparently my mouth was going while I was catching. She knew what she had to do and didn’t need my help….but she couldn’t tell her dad that. So you might just have to step in and do it for your daughter….

Sorry if I am rambling….I am fighting a headache and I can’t seem to make my point : ) It’s like the more the dad tries to help, the more the girls don’t want to hear it. He will have to lay off, or she won’t enjoy softball anymore. If she can’t tell him that, you will have to.

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